R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts for R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Women
If someone asked you how you’re feeling right now, what would you say? During a mid-life divorce, here are some of the words that probably come to mind: confused, discouraged, disappointed, worried, afraid, angry, enraged, bitter, depressed, embarrassed, inadequate, devastated, ugly, fat, dumb, sad, overwhelmed ….. you get the picture. Whether these feelings are warranted or not, a woman going through a midlife divorce usually feels some variation of all of these, and more of what we think of as negative emotions and feelings. How about today, we change our thinking? How about replacing all of those negative descriptors with some of the following positive descriptions of how we should feel: bright, awesome, calm, forgiven, happy, carefree, intelligent, motivated, energized, refreshed, optimistic, fun, focused, powerful, fit, strong, exuberant, loving, kind, patient, compassionate, caring, cherished, good, enthusiastic, Spirit-filled, productive, extraordinary, unique, delicious, capable, smart, able, light-hearted, funny, personable, adventurous, bold, expressive, delightful, sensitive, succulent, content, original, confident, helpful, curious, tender, worthy, acceptable, admired, encouraging, self-assured, sexy, sensual, positive, valuable, creative, radiant, charming, inspiring, Alive!, rare, fascinating, brave, courageous, blessed, R.A.D.I.C.A.L.! Remove all of those negative feelings today and replace them with positive descriptions of who you are. Realize and embrace the fact that you are all of those good things. That’s who the real you is! Whenever any down or depressing description of your current life comes into your head, replace it with something from the REAL YOU list. Just try that today. Then, read the list again tomorrow, and tomorrow and again the next day. Get into your head and your psyche that you are already all those good things. All you have to do is show them to the world again. Lift your head up. Put your shoulders back. Smile and show everyone you meet today who you really are!
“Summing it all up friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious -- the best, not the worst, the beautiful, not the ugly, things to praise, not things to curse. “ Philippians 4:8 (The Message)
