R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts for R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Women
“There is no right way to do a wrong thing.” Anonymous
In the middle of a midlife divorce there are lots of “wrong things” going on. For one thing, if your situation is like mine, I admit I did wrong things in our marriage. I’ve apologized and asked forgiveness for anything I did that I thought might have hurt my wasband, and I tried not to do anything purposely that I knew would harm him or our relationship. You might have done that, too. Then suddenly there are these GIANT wrong things that show up. Affairs, lying, broken promises, disregarded for children and family and friends, a willing destruction of good growing families. There is no right way to do those kinds of wrong things. I realize these words are not politically correct to say. But I have seen too many midlife women who would have done anything to save their marriage, but their wasbands were determined to go ahead and do all those wrong things regardless of the devastating results. Having said all of that, we have to make sure we, ourselves, are not doing wrong things now. Selfishness, ugliness, hate, revenge, bitterness, rage are all wrong things and there are no right ways to “do” them. The right things regardless of the circumstances are always love and joy and peace and goodness (and yes, even forgiveness) and an honest desire to shine God’s light and live God’s way with everyone … even with our wasband and his girlfriend or his new wife. Those are all right things and we are not only encouraged, but commanded to do them. And the truth of the matter is, doing right things always, always, always brings good into our lives. Remember that irreversible law of sowing and reaping. So today and forever, be strong and keep on doing the honest, right things minute by minute, hour by hour and day by day. Stand boldly for righteousness and choose right living always. That’s the right way to do the right thing. You will be blessed for it. Your children will be blessed because of it. You will find joy again because of it --- more than you can even imagine or hope for. That’s God’s promise.
And let us not get tired of doing what is right, for after a while we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t get discouraged and give up. Galatians 6:9 (TLB)
