2009 - MY YEAR TO SHINE
Spend this time after your midlife divorce to deepen and strengthen other relationships. Well, now the big V.Day is over! We all survived. Sunday afternoon I went to two grandchildren events. They were wonderful of course! A piano recital and a basketball game. If you don't have children or grandchildren, you can do the same with friends. When you are married, there is lots of time you spend with your spouse. That is as it should be. But when your spouse leaves, you have some time available to strengthen and deepen other relationships. One of the good things that came out of my own midlife divorce and fostered recovery and rebuilding was the fact that I had more time for my children and grandchildren, extended family and friends. Our sometimes over-extended adult children are appreciative for the extra body to help with their children! Grandchildren love the extra attention. Friendships that we have let slide can be rejuvenated. As we were thinking about celebrating love in general the last few days, it brought to mind all kinds of relationships that now during this period of our life that we can nurture. Call an elderly family member and take them to dinner! They will love it! Get together with your siblings ... spend some time with nieces and nephews... get to know your neighbors a bit better. Instead of agonizing about the one lost relationship in your life, celebrate all the relationships that can now blossom in a fuller, more satisfying way. I became so much closer to everyone in my family during my divorce journey. I reconnected with friends. I reached out to neighbors I didn't know very well. So today, try to change your thinking from one of loss, to one of time and opportunity gained to refresh all of your other important relationships. Children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, siblings, parents, friends, neighbors, co-workers are all waiting! Reach out today. Maybe, you've finally got time!
The picture above is from a site called www.zazzle.com. Also, be sure to check out other resources on www.midlifedivorcerecovery.com. Call about one-on-one phone mentoring. Face-to-face mentoring is available in the Kansas City area. Also, take advantage of the book - Radical Recovery:Transforming the Despair of Your Divorce into an Unexpected Good. Invest in yourself! You deserve to have the life you want! Get the resources now to create that life!
Suzy Brown: suzysuccess@kc.rr.com
