Divorce Recovery and the Holidays

Do you have this twinge of fear in the middle of your stomach? Is it just hanging around the edges of your thinking, or is a full-blown panic attack waiting to happen? Are you fearful about the holidays? The economy? Your divorce? Your future? I know when I was in the beginning of my midlife divorce recovery journey, I was afraid about all of those things. All of us have to deal with fear in some way or another. My fear usually comes when I wake up earlier than I should. I have always been an early riser. I like mornings. I get most done in the early hours of the day. But sometimes when I wake up really early, I lay in bed staring at the ceiling, and I start thinking about the stuff that makes me nervous instead of the stuff that makes me excited to get the day started. I have no idea what your religious base is, but when that happens, I start praying. I start by thanking God for a new day. I pray for everyone in my family by name and specifically. (I’ve always done that. But now even more seriously since my mom tells me every time she sees me that “Every time I look at you I know that God answers prayers. I prayed that you would be short and have curly hair.” She was 5’9” and had wavy beautiful brown hair but for some reason she wanted me to have curly hair. My older brother was 6’2” or so, my younger brother is 6’3” or taller.) My family always prayed about life. So I believe in prayer. Anyway, when I feel that fear creeping in about anything, one thing I do is pray. I’d like to hear what you do. I am doing some research about fear and I am going to be offering something at the first of the year based on my findings. It’s pretty exciting. We can control our fear. Marines learn to do it. You can too. I’m going to have something that will help calm your fears no matter what they are about. Stay tuned. In the mean time, let me hear from you. My personal e-mail address is suzysuccess@kc.rr.com.