Divorce Recovery and the Holidays

Four out of five people surveyed want their holidays to be simpler. This year, especially, you have a great opportunity to do that. Your divorce and the economy are making you think twice about spending. Everyone seems to be paring back their celebrations. You can do that to and you will be in step with most people in the country. Say "no" to things that you do just because you always do them, not because you really enjoy them. Make popcorn and have some apple cider and watch a Christmas classic movie on television instead of going to the theatre and out to eat. Make simple heartfelt gifts instead of giving big, gaudy expensive things. Share with others. Donate food for those less fortunate. Get back to the real spirit of all of the December holidays. Say yes to what is really important during this time of year (and always). Learn to say, "no," when you need to, without feeling guilty. Don't add one more expense or activity that you don't feel you can do graciously. Here is something I found in my files. I don't know who wrote it or where it's from, but I really appreciate the message. Remember it throughout this last month of the year.

Saying yes to life is a good idea,
Until I came upon a situation that requires a no.
Yes-yes-yes
May become no more than weakness,
letting life trample me
instead of flowing through me.

The word no
can be as creative as the word yes.
The difference between a creative no and a negative no
Is the impulse it stems from.
When no can be said as a declaration of freedom,
It can be a sound of joy --
And leave one with the inner glow
That he has said
Yes
to something larger.

Say yes to the important things today with joy and fun. And don't worry if you occasionally have to say, "no," for everyone's greater good.