101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip #101. Start this minute. Okay. You’re in the middle of an ugly, heartbreaking divorce. Most of every day is spent trying to hold yourself together. Every bit of news seems to add another layer of despair. The economy. The world. The holidays just around the corner. Times seem tough all around and especially all around you. Alright. Take a deep breath. The great thing about life is that we always have a choice. You have the power even in the midst of all of this trauma to create a better day. Think about all the people who have survived catastrophes only to achieve and enjoy a remarkably wonderful life. But it all starts with a choice. Victory starts with a choice and then it becomes a reality with a concrete action. Nothing better will happen if all we do is think happy thoughts or dream nice dreams. I tell my Midlife Divorce Recovery Boot Camp attendees to write this sentence in their daily planner; I tell them to put it on their mirrors; I tell them to read it every morning and every night: “Today, this very minute, I (your name) will begin to create the life I desire and deserve. Every single day I will do at least one positive thing to move me in the direction of my amazing, new life.” Sign it. Then do it. Every day. Do at least one thing to move to where you want to be. Before you know it, your days will be better and brighter. Your life will begin to become what you want. What you see now as your biggest defeat can become the catalyst to your greatest victory. But that will happen only if you do something concrete to make that happen. That’s what these 101 Simple Ways to Move Forward are meant to help you do. Real actions. Simple actions. You don't even have to do anything big. Any tiny positive action helps. Get up and do something positive right now. Start creating your wonderful new life!