101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

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Tip #93. Be aware. So often we think we are aware, but we let so many unbelievable daily gifts go unnoticed. Be present in your life. Be present in this present moment. This is the only moment you can do anything about, and you have complete control over it. If you keep bringing your past into the present, you fail to really get what you need out of now. One way to learn to be more present is to just take a minute to center yourself in this very instant. Awaken all your senses. Sometimes in the beginning of learning to be aware, it helps to take a piece of paper and list all the sensations you are feeling in this moment. No emotions or deep thoughts or worries. Just write down the physical sensations your body is feeling. For example, I have on comfortable jeans. I can hear my son playing the piano. I’m drinking a cup of great coffee that smells good and tastes rich and hot. I am looking out my window and can see the trees blowing and hear the rain and a little thunder. There are still red blossoms on the plants on my deck. My toes are cold. My life in this moment is good. I can choose to be joyful this moment. And the next. And the next. I can appreciate this moment that I am busy doing something that is positive and productive and will move me forward on my life journey. Take the time to be aware of your moment in time right now.