101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip #89. Spend a whole day in bed. If it’s possible, pick a day that is rainy or cold and blustery outside. Sometimes that’s not possible, but I’m looking out my window right this minute and it would be a perfect day to curl up in bed and not get out. Giving ourselves permission to do something decadent like that has all kinds of positive repercussions. We feel in control. We can allow ourselves to take a break from being “on track” every single minute. Sometimes we don’t realize how much energy this journey takes. It takes real emotional and physical energy to keep your emotions in check all the time. It takes concentration and self-control to keep our physical reactions appropriate. Sadness and grief take a toll on our physical and emotional selves. Making sure we are always doing the right thing when we are bombarded with ridiculous statements from our wasband, and lawyers who take too long and accountants who need things and kids who are struggling and stuff that has to be decided is exhausting! So take a break from all of that. Get a stack of magazines you want to read or a good book about a strong woman or watch trashy stuff on television all day. Eat junk food all day if you want. Or not. It’s your “do exactly what I want” day. The next rule is do not feel one bit guilty! You deserve it!

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