101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip #89. Be a giver. During tough economic times or insecure personal times, we tend to withdraw and pull in. We should do just the opposite. I’m not suggesting you go on a monetary giving spree that isn’t healthy or would deplete your own resources to a dangerous point, but I am encouraging you to experience the power you feel when you make the choice to be generous. Generosity is not just about money. It’s having an open, sharing heart. It’s being sensitive to the needs of those around you and being willing to help. It’s looking past your own life challenges to help someone with theirs. And helping others always helps us as much as it helps them. Those wise words “It is more blessed to give than to receive,” are so true. Especially when we are feeling so needy ourselves, giving to someone else is a huge step in the recovery process. Giving means that we have moved far enough along to be concerned about someone other than ourselves. Sharing is such an integral part of healing because it also makes you realize that the things you have been going through are making you more willing and sensitive and careful with the hearts and needs of others. That is one of the greatest gifts that comes from this life trauma. Like I say when I sign my book: “There is glorious life ahead. Find it! Grab it! Share it!” Do that today!