101 Ways to Move Forward After A Midlife Divorce

Tip #79. Stop Whining! During my midlife divorce recovery journey, I whined. A LOT! I admit, there is a lot to whine about during a midlife divorce. I whined that my wasband had a girlfriend that he would not give up; that some of my friends didn’t call; that my kids were put in this position. I whined that I had to go to events by myself. I whined about the financial trauma and that every single thing in my life was complicated and less than I wanted it to be. There are hundreds of things to hate about your situation. But think about it. What good does whining do? Really. Whining to a close family member, friend, support group, or counselor can help us get all that frustration and anger off our chest. But after we do that, continually whining does not do any good. In fact, it keeps us from moving forward. It prevents any real healing or life transformation. Whining keeps us tethered to the past. And the people around us get tired of it, too. So today, let’s decide to completely give whining up for this one day. Replace complaining with gratitude. Even if it’s just a “Thank you that I have a new day before me. Thank you for my body. Thank you for my mind, however crazy it’s been lately. Thank you for the good things that will come into my life that I don’t even know about yet.” This is a “WHINE-FREE” day. I feel better already just making the decision to focus on good things today instead of bad. Why don’t you make that decision, too and let’s see what happens. Let me know.