101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip #78. Let Go. I’ve decided that I can’t solve every problem in life. I drove to Wichita on Friday for my parents’ anniversary. About halfway there (a three-hour drive), I started telling God everything I’ve been worried about. (Those of you who don’t believe in God can just ignore this blog.) Anyway, the list was long: The upcoming midlife divorce recovery bootcamp. Women going through that storm. My kids and grandkids. The election. The economy. Before I knew it, I was crying and fussing at God. I asked him why he wasn’t doing more to help. On Sunday, my younger brother, a preacher, gave a lesson about whining and complaining and being ungrateful. He made the point that the big question is simply whether we can trust God or not. I know I can trust God. He has worked countless times in my life. But I get impatient, and I want God to show his stuff and I sometimes forget that the way God shows his stuff is through his people. What am I doing to make the world better? What am I doing to reassure women that life will be good again? What am I doing to demonstrate God’s never-failing love? So today I am letting go of all of my worries and frustrations. I am fasting and praying that God will work his perfect will in every situation, and that I will joyfully do my part in fulfilling his purposes on this earth. Today, I’m going to completely let go of my insecurities and let God do his stuff through me however he chooses to do that. I already feel more at peace.