101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip # 77. Write a note. While we are “in recovery” from a midlife divorce, we are often obsessed with ourselves and how sad we are or how mad we are or how unfair this whole situation is. Today, let’s take a break from feeling sorry for ourselves and write a simple note of thanks or appreciation to someone who has touched our life in a positive way. Here are some ideas: the preacher at your church; an author of a book; a newspaper journalist; a helpful salesperson at a store; the guy who mows your lawn; the carry out guy at the grocery store; the crossing guard at the grade school; you parents’ caretaker. The list is endless. Let’s get in the habit of looking for and recognizing all the good things people do for us every single day. People who have families and struggles and heartaches just like the rest of us, but who hardly ever get any recognition for the good job they do every single day. Ask for the card of the person at a retail or service business if they have treated you especially well. Write a note to them, but write a note to the company, too! That might really help them move up in the world. Today, let’s each find someone to appreciate and tell them “thank you” for making our life easier or better or more fun. I guarantee you’ll feel better, too. Remember this truth: What you plant, you harvest!

Don't forget about the Midlife Divorce Recovery Bootcamp October 11th in Kansas City. Go to www.midlifedivorcerecovery.com for more details. Bring a group! Get special rates. Bring a support friend for only the cost of lunch but just make the decision to come get better! Call Suzy at 816-941-4911.

P.S. I am in Wichita for my parents 66th wedding anniversary (they knew each other 60 days from the time they met til the time they married and they have been together 66 years!) I will not be able to post a blog until Monday. Thanks for your patience.