101 Ways to Move Forward After A Midlife Divorce

Tip # 69. Be yourself. When you are in recovery from a midlife divorce, you worry about being yourself. You somehow think your own personal “self” is suddenly not good enough. When someone we love tells us by having a girlfriend or wanting to leave our marriage that we aren’t good enough, we are afraid to be our wonderful, unique self. Our self has been hit and kicked and smacked and roughed up until we are embarrassed about her. So we try to fit someone else’s view of us. We try to fit someone else’s mold or someone else’s idea of what we should be. Each one of us has been created as a completely unique and beautiful person with all of our individuality and promise. Be proud of yourself. Work on improving your weaknesses and correct your faults, but don’t let someone else’s view of you destroy the person you know you are. Today make a list of everything that is unique about you. Think of every single thing that makes you the one and only you. Then be that woman to the best of your ability. Shine that one light that is yours alone. Don’t let anyone blow it out!