101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip #67. Stay positive. Every news source in our country is screaming out the bad news. According to many, we are on the brink of financial disaster. And as a woman also dealing with the stresses and challenges of a midlife divorce, it’s enough to make that vague fear in your gut become a complete personal meltdown. Don’t let it. We are all going to have to tighten our financial belts, but look at it this way: you are already cutting down because of your divorce. You have already faced some of what everyone around you is beginning to face. We are all looking for ways to live more reasonably. Driving less. Spending less. We divorced women are being joined by millions who are eliminating spending that isn’t essential. Other women in our book club are cutting back too, so we aren’t standing out by not going on a big trip this year or by wearing the same dress to a party that we wore last year. (No one will remember!) I really think this temporary adjustment will put our country on more solid financial ground in the end, so let’s stay upbeat and positive. These struggles can help our children have a more realistic view of money, too. We can be a great example to them through this and give them tools that will help them as they mature. Even if we have to make significant changes, we are stronger and more capable than ever because of the lessons we've learned during of our divorce. So don’t despair! We will survive … and even find ways to thrive!