101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip #65.Develop a character. Find a character in a book or in a movie or even in a television show that you want to emulate. At a time of life when you feel as if you are living in the middle of a soap opera, decide how you want your character to behave. Many of us have been in that real-life soap opera of midlife divorce ourselves. We’ve been stars in our very own “As the World Turns,” full of domineering rogues, innocent bystanders, vicious women, charming cheaters … the whole gamut of characters. Develop the character you want to be in your own life production. Stand back and look at your own situation as if it were a movie. Could you see the way more clearly? For some reason in our own lives we are willing to put up with things that are not good for us. We do things that are not helpful. We sometimes even turn into the ‘scorned woman’ including her ridiculous efforts at revenge. Stop a minute today and evaluate the part you’re playing. If you could be the director, how would your character act? How would a decent, fun, smart, competent, confident character act? Act that way. Act in your own best interest. If you're playing a part in your own soap opera that you don’t like, become a different character. It’s your life. You get to choose.