101 Ways to Move Forward After A Midlife Divorce

Tip # 62. Join a Group. One of our basic human needs is a need to belong. We need to feel connected to people, but while we're recovering from a midlife divorce we feel disconnected at almost every level. Our social connections are in disarray. Often our religious groups don’t know what to do with us. Everyone else on the planet seems to fit in except us. Everyone else seems to be at a party and we’re not invited. That’s not the truth, but that’s how if feels. One solution is to find a cause you are passionate about and then join a group that supports that cause. Find a completely new group of people to interact with. You can join “incognito.” Everyone in your established circles of connections knows your story ... knows about your divorce. This new group doesn’t have to know. You can tell them later if you want, but you can be just a “normal” woman who wants to help. Plus you find all kinds of good-hearted people volunteering at all kinds of worthy causes. Get out of your comfort zone and into your contribute zone. It helps everyone involved … and maybe you most of all.
Photo above is from www.brambles.org in association with the Multiple Sclerosis Society