101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip # 55. Take responsibility. Okay, people do bad things. People hurt us. And in the case of a midlife divorce that is a result of infidelity or abuse, people do things that completely turn our lives upside down. They have to take responsibility for those actions. But I have to take responsibility for mine, too. What happened to me in the past has happened. I need to come to grips with my part in that. But today is my responsibility. Even if I’m left in a position where I can’t pay the bills or have to move out of our house or even when I have to face all of those really difficult changes in my life …. today is MY responsibility. I can choose how my day will be. Even if I am hit with some other terrible thing to adjust to, my response to what happens today is my responsibility. And I always have the choice to move forward. As hard as it is sometimes, I have the ultimate choice about whether to be miserable or whether to decide to survive and thrive. You have that choice to. As complicated as any situation is, the end result is that you have the choice to be joyful or not. To be grateful or grumpy. To be a winner or a whiner. At the start of this holiday weekend, lets all choose to make the very best of this very day. Start with this minute. Smile. Straighten up something. Do something positive. We all get to choose and that’s an amazing opportunity.