101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip # 54. Get the N.A.C. I listened to a CD this morning about Neuro-Association-Conditioning. (N.A.C.) It’s a system that helps us break our negative thought patterns. The key is to automatically switch to a different and positive thought when a negative one enters your head. For instance in midlife divorce recovery there are hundreds of negative thoughts to deal with. Early in the process, most days are an endless stream of negativity! Although I recognize our need to grieve and we must do that, eventually we have to figure out how to transform those negative thoughts into positive building blocks to an invigorating new life. Instead of thinking, “I am all alone … no one loves me,” think instead, “I’m temporarily alone and I can use this situation to spend some much-needed time concentrating on what I want from life.” Instead of thinking, “my children are going to be permanently scarred from this,” I’ll think instead, “I will consciously teach my children positive life lessons through this situation.” Instead of thinking about everything you’ve lost, think about everything you still have. Switch your thinking immediately when you get into that negative mindset. Get a positive N.A.C. … It will make a difference!