101 Ways to Move Forward After A Midlife Divorce

Tip # 53. Don’t beat yourself up! It’s very easy during a midlife divorce recovery journey to pummel yourself and degrade yourself and second-guess yourself! “If only I had been a better listener. If only I had entertained more. If only I had been more adventurous.” The fact that my ex-husband had a girlfriend made me feel not sexy enough or pretty enough or interesting enough. All I can say is stop kicking yourself around! None of us are perfect. We can all improve ourselves. But today, lets focus on the good things about ourselves. Are you good-natured? Kind? Flexible? Generous? Fun? Instead of beating ourselves up about our faults (and I have many), lets recognize and emphasize all those things that we do well. Today, make a list of your good qualities and focus on those. You wouldn’t just stand there and let someone else beat you up. You wouldn’t let someone say ugly things to someone you love. So don’t do it to yourself. Let’s don’t tell anyone, but let’s all make today “Be Kind to Myself Day,” let’s not feel one bit guilty! Celebrate all of your positive attributes. We’ll talk about all of our faults another day.