101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip # 52. Save up enough money to get a hot stone massage. I got a hot stone massage for a gift, but during a midlife divorce recovery journey it’s good for our souls and our hearts and our bodies to do something extravagant for ourselves. We can’t do it every day or every week or even every month, but every so often it does our whole selves good. I was a few minutes late to this “expensive” experience, so I was stressed a little. I apologized for being late, and after taking a deep breath, went to the “second room on the right.” I walked in and put on the crisp, clean white gown. The faint scent of spices and sandalwood filled the room. There was soothing eastern music playing. The only lights were candles. A total physical escape. Once Saru greeted me and explained the experience, she told me to focus only on the physical sensations, and there was no other talking. The hour was sort of “other worldly,” and absolutely incredible. She left me in the room for about 30 minutes after she finished and I felt tears roll down my cheeks. I felt content and peaceful and whole. It was completely opposite from the busy, confused, upset, worried, angry state that had often swirled around and within me during my divorce. All I can say is “try it.” I’m already putting money in my change jar to save up for another hour of “professional” calm, but I’m also carving out more conscious peaceful times in my everydays.
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