101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip # 43. Set aside 15 minutes a day to worry. Other times are off-limits. Okay, you’re in the middle of a midlife divorce. Do you have anything to worry about? Of course you do! At least I did. I could fill pages about things I worried about. But here’s the deal. Worrying doesn’t help. Period. I think we all have to have a healthy awareness of the issues we’re facing, but actual worry does absolutely nothing constructive. In fact, worry can paralyze us. So try this. Set aside 15 minutes to worry. Then worry up a storm. After your 15 minutes is up, do something to solve the problems you’ve been worrying about. I read about an organization called the worry club. You can send them your list of worries and they worry about them for you! You are then free to do more productive things … like getting control of your life! Here’s something else I read: “You can worry or you can pray. No need to do both.” I try to remind myself of that whenever I start worrying about something. Praying or doing something to improve the situation moves you forward, worrying doesn’t. So do your 15 minutes of worrying today, then do something that actually helps.