101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip #38. Talk nice to yourself. (I know that’s not grammatically correct, but it’s stronger expressed that way.) Especially during your midlife divorce recovery journey, self-talk is very, very important. Think about how your attitude changes when your self- talk changes. You can say, “This sucks! I hate this! I will never be happy again. I don’t deserve this. What good am I? I can’t even keep my marriage together. I’m not worth anything!” Or you can say, “I don’t like this, but I am going to grow in spite of it. I am going to discover new, exciting things because of this. I am going to let myself enjoy this new life even though I didn’t plan it. I am going to celebrate life in spite of this detour. In fact, I am going to see this situation as an opportunity for an even better, more fulfilling, more purposeful life!” The words you think and say have a profound effect on what happens each day. You can look at the day with a sense of dread and despair, or you can look at it as a chance to rejoice and create and discover your very best self. When I sign my book, Radical Recovery, I sometimes put the words … “There is glorious life ahead! Find it! Grab it! Share it! Tell yourself that today, and see how your outlook improves.