101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip #30. Speak clearly and confidently. During a midlife divorce, most of the time we feel anything but confident. I often felt embarrassed and weak and worried that I might say the wrong thing or that I might start crying before I got any point across at all. In direct dealing with my wasband, I would often verbally react without much thinking at all, and that definitely is not good either. Especially, now, in normal everyday conversations, in business, and in any kind of persuasive speaking we should speak with consideration and assurance. When I am on my way to a meeting or a speaking engagement or even coffee with a friend, I often think about what I want to say or ask about and then I pray in my car that God will direct my thoughts and my words. Scriptures from many religions encourage being “slow to speak.” The Bible also encourages us to use words that build up instead of tear down. Let’s think before we say anything today and see what a difference it makes.