101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip #20. Don’t waste one single moment on regret. Regret is a wish that some situation in the past could be different. The past cannot be changed. Period. Just the same, midlife divorce can cause extreme feelings of regret which often includes, remorse, sorrow, sadness, guilt and feeling responsible for pain. None of us is perfect. I’m not. You’re not. Our past “significant other” is not. It doesn’t do any good at all to feel regret for things we can’t change. There are lots of things about my midlife divorce I would do differently if I had known then what I know now. And I still screw up. In little ways. And big ways. And in horrendous, huge ways. But life teaches us in the middle of the fire. We often learn lessons by making mistakes (or by reading books like Radical Recovery and learning from others who have made mistakes). The only thing we can do in the here and now is apologize if we need to. Ask forgiveness if we should. We can learn from our failures, commit ourselves to making the changes we need to make and then move forward as a wiser, kinder, hopefully better woman.