101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip # 18. Go to church. Pray with assurance. Sing with enthusiasm. Church is one of my favorite places to go, even though I know the real meaning of church is not a place, it’s a people. In my religious heritage, you don’t go to church, you are the church living out your faith in real life … shining God’s light even when there is darkness all around you. For me, going to a meaningful, enthusiastic worship service of good, caring people is a big huge “upper” for me. And if you let yourself get lost in praise with people who know that God makes a difference, it gives you courage and hope and peace. But you’ve got to let go and put your heart into it. It doesn’t work if you’re just going through the motions. Find a church that really knows how to sing and praise God and pray with Thanksgiving, and see if it doesn’t make a difference in how you get through your midlife divorce recovery journey. And if it’s the right kind of group, there are people there who really want to help you get through this struggle. If you can’t find any, go somewhere else. Read the Psalms. Read Plan B by Anne Lamott. Go "to" church tomorrow. Try God. Take the chance to trust him completely. See what happens.