R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts

“When you ask for help, hurdles of the mind and heart that seemed totally insurmountable on your own become effortless. Anything is possible.” ~ Geneen Roth, Author of When You Eat at the Refrigerator, Pull Up a Chair

Geneen Roth helps people who have a problem with weight, appearance and body image. She is a very effective (and funny) advocate for people who struggle with self-esteem, and her book has a chapter on “Ask for Help. You Can’t Do It Alone.” She encourages people to find support, and once put an ad in the Santa Cruz paper asking for women who wanted to deal with their issues about food but without dieting. Ten women showed up. I think finding others to share with during your midlife divorce recovery journey is invaluable. I called women I knew who had recently been divorced, and some of them knew others, so our first fluid group was about eight women. It can be incredibly empowering to find others who understand how your heart is hurting or who know the despair you are feeling. But find women who can encourage you, not just cry with you. “The support of which I am speaking is for your whole being. For everything you want to become. For telling the truth. For being spacious with yourself and with others. Support for your heart’s desires, for what you value most about being alive.” Find or create a group that will help you move forward. You’ll be surprised at the doors that will open.

“Everyone who asks, receives; all who seek, find; and the door is opened to everyone who knocks.” ~ Luke 2:10

P.S. For those of you who want to start a group, I can send you a Word Document with some tips. Also, Susan Bettis Smith, a psychologist in Kansas City will be starting a group that she will facilitate on Tuesday evenings for six weeks from June 10 to July 15. For more information call Susan at 913-451-8550 x112.