101 Ways to Move Forward After a Midlife Divorce

Tip #8 - Research shows that depression is often caused by a feeling of lack of control. A midlife divorce is often the poster child for lack of control. You can't control what your formerly significant other is doing. You can't control the courts or the decisions made by judges. You can't control how fast or how slowly things are happening. Honestly, you can't control anything but yourself ... and even that's challenging to say the least during this ordeal. But one thing you can do is get control of some little part of your physical surroundings. Today, pick out some small thing to take charge of. Organize the silverware drawer. Clean out your closet or even your lingerie drawer. Straighten up under one of your sinks or one shelf of books. Tidy up the porch. Just find something that you have complete control of and feel the sense of peace that comes from organizing even that small part of your life. In reality, you have more control than you think. You can choose minute by minute how you will react to the situations you face today. Just choosing to put all the knives and forks and spoons in the right places will give you a bit of control that will spill over to all the other decisions you will face today.