R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts
“Midlife is not only the best, but also the most important time to find yourself, be yourself, please yourself, and enjoy yourself.” ~ MidLife/New Life by Judith Wills
Midlife is a time of change. And midlife that includes a divorce is change times 10 or 100 or 1000! Midlife is normally a time to re-evalute life and our part in it. I was looking forward to doing that with my wasband. But he wanted something else. He wanted change that did not include me, and I was devastated by that reality. I didn’t want change that meant absolutely everything in my life was different. I wanted change, like more time to sit on the deck or travel or go to a movie without arranging for a babysitter or getting our teenagers from here to there. But the change we all got when we “got” a midlife divorce is cataclysmic change. Very little about my external life is the same. But as hard as that is to accept in the beginning, that sudden total life change can be a positive (though extremely challenging) experience. Even though you might think “there is nothing positive about my situation!” That’s not true. The outward changes in life can make us make some inward changes that will make all the positive difference in the world. This divorce can push me forward to be a more aware and sensitive and more loving woman; and a woman more willing to live life with exuberance and joy. Our life is definitely different after divorce, but it can be a time to not only find ourselves, but to embrace our unique new place in God’s plan. I could give you dozens of true-life stories of women who have done breathtaking things in midlife and beyond. God may just be getting to the best part with your life. Let that life unfold! Be willing to be changed from the inside out! You’ll be amazed at how good it can be!
“You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what God wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.” Romans 12:1-2 (The Message)
