R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts

“Your job after divorce is to create a better life than the one you had before.” – From The Smart Divorce by Deborah Moskovitch

What good is it to live your life in a state of disappointment, bitterness, sadness, anger and hopelessness? Your midlife divorce happened. Whatever the circumstances, if you are reading this, your divorce is probably an unchangeable fact. As Ms. Moskovitch says, your job now is to have a better life than before. Whether you think so now or not, you have your whole life ahead of you, and it’s up to you how the rest of your life unfolds. You have the choice. You can create a wonderful, fun, exciting, adventurous new life … or you can stay in the doldrums of despair and dissatisfaction. It’s your choice. Step back and look at your life as a new job. Be enthusiastic. Be innovative. Be creative. Leave behind bitterness and anger and jealousy and all those other feelings that do absolutely no good at all in designing your new and better life. Do good things. Feel good feelings. Make good choices. Dream good dreams. Create your better life. It’s possible. The great part is, you’re the one who gets to decide. You can’t blame anyone else for the rest of your life. It’s in your hands. It’s your life. Make it good. Be wise and start this very minute. Go do some good thing.

“If you are wise, live a life of steady goodness, so that only good deeds will pour forth. And if you don’t brag about them, then you will be truly wise! And by all means don’t brag about being wise and good if you are bitter and jealous and selfish; that is the worst sort of lie.” ~ James 3:13-14 (The Living Bible)