R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts

“Midlife is not only the best, but also the most important time to find yourself, be yourself, please yourself, and enjoy yourself. And that doesn’t mean you have to change into an extremely selfish person, or feel guilty.” ~ Midlife New Life by Judith Wills

Hardly anyone chooses major life changes. Most of us would rather stay in the safe status quo. But when a major change like an unwanted midlife divorce is dropped on us like a bomb or washes over us like a tsunami, we have no choice. Change is mandatory whether we wanted it or not. But once you find yourself in this spot of major life change, you do have a choice. That choice is how to deal with it. The more I read about midlife, the more I understand that it can be an absolutely amazing time of life. I was 53 when I was first divorced. I didn’t want all the change that meant. I just wanted to grow old with my then husband and do all the things I had planned in my head. But when that dream ended, I had to figure out, “Okay, what now?” If you are reading this, you are probably trying to put those puzzle pieces together in your own life. But even though you didn’t choose it, doesn’t mean that you can’t take the rest of your life and make it magnificent. This can be your chance to shine! This can be your time to look carefully at who you want to be and use this time to please yourself. Use what you’ve learned in life to be your absolute best. Honestly, truly, the best can be yet to come. It’s your choice. My advice: Soar!

“But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” ~ Isaiah 40:31 (NIV)