R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts

"Only fun--in the sense of taking pleasure in accomplishment and interesting foul-up alike--will allow you to thrive amidst the ravages of change in a world turned upside down." Thriving On Chaos by Tom Peters

Can we thrive "amidst the ravages of change in a world turned upside down" by a midlife divorce? The book from which I took the quote above is a book with the subtitle Handbook for a Management Revolution. It's a Business book by Tom Peters who also wrote In Search of Excellence and Passion for Excellence. Mr. Peters is an expert on business and what it takes to survive in todays fast-paced, constantly changing business environment. It's amazing how many of his suggestions for success have real-life applications for someone going through divorce. Just like the quote above. We have to allow our minds to see the big picture of our divorce. It happened. We all hated it. We cried and yelled and prayed about it. But once it was a done deal, a sure deal, what do we do now? The best thing as Tom Peters suggests is to look at our future (in business and in life) as a great adventure. He says, "We are in the midst of a great and crazy adventure, creating our brave new rulebook by error and trial as we go along." I get excited by statements like that. I will not let my ex-husband destroy my life that has all sorts of amazing potential left in it. His ridiculously bad behavior will not spoil MY life. I'm going to look at even my "interesting foul-ups" as seeds for growth. I'm going to look at what's left of my life as a glad adventure. I will grab the gusto and make it fun! I'm going to take pleasure in my new life. I know I'm farther along the recovery road than you are. I know you have grieving to do. Do it. Just remember ... the incredible adventure of the rest of your life is waiting!

“"You have let me experience the joys of life and the exquisite pleasures of your own eternal presence."
(The Living Bible)