R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts

" Life gives us one good reason to laugh every chance we get: No one after all gets out of here alive."
You, Inc. - Harry and Christine Beckwith
In the middle of a midlife divorce there usually isn't a lot of laughing. We could laugh more if we weren't spending so much time crying and moaning and shouting and sobbing. I know. I spent way too much time in the early part of my divorce doing all those things. Depending on where you are in your divorce recovery process you are probably doing those things too. Laughter is oftentimes nowhere to be found. But you need to find laughter. When someone told me something like that during my divorce, I would think, I would laugh if I could find something to laugh about. I would laugh if I weren't so sad. That's one of the most important reasons to find a group of other recovering R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Women to be a part of. Somehow when we're together (especially with other women who know what we're going through), we eventually find things to laugh about, no matter what the situation. As the Beckwiths remind us, "(Laughter) is a vivid reminder that life goes on. Hardships come and hardships go, and nothing makes the peaks more beautiful and the valleys more bearable than humor." Somehow today, find something to laugh about. Humor yourself. Read the comics in the newspaper. Go to the bookstore and find the humor section. Watch a funny movie. Remember, life is moving forward anyway. You may as well try to find some humor in it. Crying serves a useful purpose, and if you need to, cry your eyes out ... but crying all the time makes your face all puffy and your eyes all red. Remember, no one gets out of life alive, so for myself, I'd rather do more laughing than crying. God himself wants to give us joy. Let's let him!
"There's no way God will reject a good person, and there is no way he will help a bad one. God will let you laugh again: you'll raise the roof with shouts of joy, with you enemies thoroughly discredited; their house of cards collapsed."
Job 8:20-22