R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts

"Personal ads are dangerous. You have to separate the ones who are lying from the ones who are hallucinating."
Rita Rudner, comedienne

If you are early on your midlife divorce recovery road, you may not be ready to even think about another relationship. If that's the case, just file this information away for later. But the fact is, after a terrible end to a long-term marriage, after some time has passed, it's nice to have a date ... go to dinner ... go to a movie with a male friend or even with some guy your friends have set you up with. But don't put pressure on yourself. In the beginning, just keep an open mind and have fun. At some point you might move to the internet dating sites...those places that have very sophisticated personal ads. Even though I met my wonderful husband on the internet (yes, I really did!) my advice is to take everything you read with a grain of salt ... or a whole morton container of salt! Internet dating can be fun. And they have Christian dating sites if that sounds more appealing. But be careful on those sites as well. If you're ready, go on the sites to just correspond with people. Meet someone online and exchange e-mails for awhile. Take your time. I spent at least a month corresponding before I agreed to meet in person. Don't get in a car with someone you don't know well. Always meet in very public places. Walk away if anything seems worrisome. But with all of your wits about you, give it a try if you want to. And remember, you've just ended a relationship with someone who probably did his share of both hallucinating and lying. Don't get into another one.

"A good person hates false talk..."
Proverbs 13:5a (The Message)