R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts

"The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated. How you carry yourself reflects what you think of yourself. If you ask for little, shuffle your feet and lower your head, people will assume this reflects your character."
The 48 Laws of Power - Robert Green and Joost Elfers

You will probably be reading several blogs based on the book referenced above. It is a treasure house of the rules of power. I do not agree with everything in this book and it must be taken with a hearty dose of common sense, but the concepts are so appropriate for living life day to day ... and especially for women who have been feeling powerless or at least less powerful than we want to feel. So much of what happens in a midlife divorce makes you feel hesitant, insecure, and weak. But by simply carrying ourselves confidently and, as the author of this book says, by adopting the "Columbus attitude" ... we become buoyant, confident, above the crowd and destined for greatness. This attitude has nothing to do with conceit or arrogance. It exudes, instead, assurance, dignity, tranquility and worth. Remember this, you ARE a child of a king! Act like it! Don't let the arrogance, selfishness or bad behavior of anyone else throw you off or disturb your poise. In reality, whoever is causing you trouble will be amazed and astounded whether they admit it or not... and you gain everyone's respect. The worse those around you are acting, the more influence you have when you continue to carry yourself like the noble person you are.


"So if you're serious about living this new resurrection life with Christ, act like it. ... Don't shuffle along, eyes to the ground, absorbed with the things right in front of you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ - that's where the action is. See things from his perspective."
Colossians 3:1-2 (The Message)