R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts

"Never get involved with a flamenco dancer, no matter how gorgeous, whether he is from New Jersey or Peru."
From "Normal Is Just A Setting On The Dryer"

Some of you may be at the point of starting to think about a new relationship. Some of you may be so lonely that you might get into a relationship that you know you shouldn't. Some may be at the point where you, as one woman in my first R.A.D.I.C.A.L. group said, "I would like to just put a bag over my head and a bag over some guy's head and just have a good 'night in bed!' (--not her exact phrase!) I was married for 33 years. That meant sex whenever I wanted it. But when you are suddenly divorced, you hunger for that part of a relationship. The companionship. The physical sharing. The closeness. Normal, natural, every-day wonderful sex. A psychologist who spoke on grieving at one of my boot camps indicated that women tend to fill up that lonely void with either, eating, spending or relationships. Common sense and the sad experiences of other women prove that "rebound" relationships or just relationships based on physical attraction alone can bring unwanted consequences. Get yourself strong and confident first. Enjoy platonic relationships. Go to dinner with friends. Have coffee. But stay away from the flamenco dancers, the bar frogs, the guys 'on the make.' In our new situation, sometimes they are tempting ... but stay alert. Don't get into a situation that will not be good for you. You're just recovering from that. Take your time. Use good judgement. Forgive me if I sound like a dorm mother, but if it will save you heartache, I'm willing to sound any way I need to.

"Keep your eyes open for spiritual danger ..."
I Corinthians 16:13a (The Living Bible)