R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Thoughts

"Reclaim your bed. Get rid of the bad chi that might be hovering over your bed. Pick out new bedding, some velvet throw pillows, a new mattress if necessary. Revel in a girlie floral pattern or whatever style speaks to you and you alone. Create a bed that will provide maximum solace and comfort."
Kerry Colburn

Sleep is one of the biggest problems when you are going through a midlife divorce. I tried everything to get some sleep. I tried sleeping on the sofa in front of the fireplace. I tried sleeping with all the windows open on the sunporch in a sleeping bag. I cut out a picture of a woman in an ad who was stretched out sleeping peacefully. I tried to get that peaceful sleeping-by-myself feeling. It hardly ever worked. When you aren't sleeping, you're grumpy and tired and it's hard to concentrate. Lack of sleep messes up everything else you are trying to do. Talk to your counselor or your physician. Tell him what's going on. Take his or her advice. And try fixing up your bed just like YOU want it. I bought several wonderful quilts for different seasons. I gave away our big king-sized bed and got my own smaller bed. It didn't seem so much like two people should be sleeping in it. And I bought new sheets and pillows. Make sure your bed is a place where you feel comfortable and are surrounded by colors and textures you love. Put an encouraging, comforting verse by your bed. Read it every night before you turn out the light. Eventually, restful sleep will return.

"At days end I'm ready for sound sleep, for you, God, have put my life back together."
Psalm 4:8 (The Message)